Learning Objectives
➤ Explain how to tell children about breast cancer diagnosis & treatment.
➤ Describe strategies for dealing with relationship challenges during treatment.
10.1.1 Children
You might find it difficult to talk about your breast cancer diagnosis with your children (Canadian Breast Cancer Network [CBCN], 2018). There are a few things that you must keep in mind when planning out these difficult conversations, including:
- understanding what they need to know versus what they do not need to know,
- being honest about what is happening during your breast cancer experience (e.g. when you go to the hospital),
- asking them if they have any questions to help them feel included,
- preparing them for what they might see after your breast cancer surgery (e.g., side effects),
- and providing comfort and reassurance to make sure everyone feels safe and able to express their emotions (CBCN, 2018).
If you have teenagers or older children, you might be able to go into more detail about your breast cancer, such as the location of your cancer (CBCN, 2018). Furthermore, they might want to be involved in your breast cancer experience, like attending appointments or helping you with daily living after your treatment.
Everyone will have these conversations in a slightly different way (CBCN, 2018). Since having cancer is a new experience for you, it is crucial to recognize that whatever emotions you are experiencing are valid. Be patient with yourself and have these conversations whenever you are ready.
10.1.2 Partners
Having breast cancer can create different challenges that can either strengthen or strain your relationship (CBCN, 2018).
Upon learning about your diagnosis, your partner might feel afraid, concerned, worried, angry, and other emotions (CBCN, 2018). Furthermore, your relationship might experience issues with communication, role switching, and other similar aspects.
Communication issues can happen with breast cancer due to the uncertainty of the situation and the emotions surrounding it (CBCN, 2018). If your partner takes on responsibilities you can no longer do, they might feel lost, confused, or even anxious about what tasks they must do. Being open and honest with your partner about your feelings and what kind of support you need can help prevent miscommunication.
